Boundaries Are Good!

We shouldn’t feel guilty, ashamed, or fearful of attack for setting boundaries. Setting boundaries is an essential part of communication, our overall well-being, and development.

I was speaking to a friend last weekend that had a moment where they needed to establish a line with some friends and didn’t really do so. He wasn’t sure of how to go about setting the boundaries in a positive way. I also think he didn’t fully believe that it was ok to set those particular boundaries with friends.

It is a must, your personal responsibility to yourself, and a service to others really for you to establish clear and bright lined boundaries.

I shared this post from Mel Robbins with him via Instagram and I’d like to share it with you all as well. I’ll cover the key points really quick though.

The 5 reasons she lists for feeling guilty about setting boundaries is as follows:

1.       You think you “owe” this person your loyalty.

2.       You blame yourself for their toxic behavior.

3.       You don’t like hurting other people’s feelings.

4.       You’re remembering positive memories and wishing things could be how they used to be.

5.       You’re worried they’re going to be mad at you.

Mel Robbins Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CCdii14lXjY/

Of course, read the caption too, that’s where all the good stuff is.

Set those boundaries! They also serve as a guideline for those who are really looking to connect with you. Those who want to know how to interact with you the best, will respect your boundaries. Not only that they will encourage you to set them, and share theirs as well.

This is related to clear communication, better understanding, more potential for connection.

You will be happier, feel more empowered, and remove a lot of nonsense from the table if you get to work on setting and upholding boundaries. With others and also with yourself!